If I had a quarter for every time I saw a commercial for E-Harmony or Match.com … well, I’d have a whole lotta quarters. Like at least 40. It seems like those companies are always out there on the telly, trying to show you what you’re missing out on and what you, too, could have for a reasonable fee of just $30 a month. A small price to pay for matrimonial bliss … or is it? I’m not entirely sure I have faith, and often wonder to myself:
Can a website’s search engine really find your soulmate?
I know, there are tons of people out there who have ended up meeting their boyfriend/ girlfriend/ life partner on some sort of dating site, and many have even ended up marrying that person. So it has to work for some people. But maybe I’m just not one of them. I mean, it’s not like I haven’t tried. I met an ex on MySpace (before it became an e-wasteland), went on a terrible blind date courtesy of CrazyBlindDate.com and even joined Nerve.com and OKcupid when I moved to New York in hopes of finding ‘the one’. Here’s the problem I’ve come across again and again: me and ‘the guys’ never seem to be in agreeance when it comes to being into each other.
Usually what happens is I’ll get a message from someone who I find terribly cheesy, unattractive or both. Naturally I won’t write back and will try to seek out dudes who are more ‘my type’ — artsy, smart, witty, well-dressed and down for an adventure. Problem is, when I reach out to these guys I seem to get shot down. Maybe they don’t like the fact that I’m writing to them? Maybe they’re not too fond of my profile/ photos? Or maybe they’re just not that into me. I tend to believe the latter and move on. But how many times does this need to happen before I just flat out call it quits? I confessed this to The Meyer last night, and it’s been on my mind ever since: I’m tempted to delete my online dating account but I’m hesitant. What if deleting the account means I’m inadvertently missing out on that perfect somebody? Now you tell me — is this a valid concern? Or just plain silly?
Until next time, happy dating!